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BDSM Collars and Leashes

BDSM collars signal a role or relationship and can be the center of a scene or a subtle everyday piece. This collection includes buckled leather and vegan collars, posture styles, chain and O-ring designs, and matching leashes. Brands include Sportsheets, Rouge, Spartacus and Bijoux Indiscrets, starting from $18, with plain, unbranded shipping on every order.
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Buying guide

How to choose a BDSM collar

Comfort and fit come first, since a collar sits on a sensitive part of the body. Then think about the look and what the collar means to the two of you.

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Styles and meaning

A submissive collar often marks a dynamic between partners, and some people pair a discreet day collar with a more dramatic play collar. Bondage collars usually have one or more D-rings or O-rings for attaching a leash or restraints. Posture collars are taller and limit head movement, so they suit experienced players.

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Materials

Leather softens with wear and lasts a long time with care. Vegan leather is lighter and easy to wipe clean. Metal and chain look striking but can be heavy and cold against the skin. Look for padded linings, rolled or smooth edges and sturdy hardware for comfort.

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Fit and safety

Measure your neck and choose an adjustable collar. You should fit two fingers between the collar and your neck. Never use a collar to restrict breathing, never tie it to a fixed point, and never leave a collared person alone. A quick-release buckle and safety shears nearby add another layer of security. Agree on a safe word or signal before you play.

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Choosing a leash

A sex collar and leash set is mostly about symbolism and gentle guidance. Leashes should be held loosely and never pulled hard. Match the clip to the ring size on your collar. Pair your set with BDSM lingerie and nipple clamps, or return to the full bondage collection for more gear.

FAQ

BDSM Collars and Leashes: common questions

Quick answers from our team. Need more help? Call 800-618-6053.

What does a submissive collar mean?
A submissive collar is a symbol of a power exchange relationship, showing that the wearer has agreed to a submissive role. The meaning is set by the people involved. For some it is a serious commitment, similar to a ring, while for others it is simply a fun part of a scene.
How tight should a BDSM collar be?
You should be able to slide two fingers between the collar and your neck. It should not press on your throat or restrict breathing, swallowing or blood flow. Adjustable buckles make fine-tuning easy. Check the fit standing and lying down, since neck position changes how a collar feels.
Is it safe to use a leash with a collar?
Yes, if it is used for symbolism and gentle guidance only. Never pull hard, jerk the leash or attach it to furniture or a fixed point. The person holding the leash should stay close and attentive. Stop right away if the wearer feels any pressure on the throat.
How do you care for a leather collar?
Wipe it with a damp cloth and a leather cleaner after use, then let it air dry away from heat. Apply leather conditioner every few months to keep it supple. Never soak real leather or put it in the washing machine. Vegan leather can be wiped with mild soap and water.