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Strap-Ons

A strap on lets one partner wear a dildo in a harness, or hold a strapless design in place, for hands-free penetration. Choose from harness kits, standalone harnesses, and strapless and vibrating models from Sportsheets, Strap-On-Me, Blush, and Pipedream. Prices start from $28, with options for first-timers and experienced couples.
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How to choose a strap-on

Strap-ons are worn by people of every gender and used in every kind of pairing, from a lesbian strap on setup to pegging. The decisions are the same either way: harness, dildo, and fit.

Kit or separate pieces

A kit bundles a harness and a strap on dildo, so it is the simplest first purchase. Buying a separate strap on harness lets you pick a dildo you already love and swap sizes later. Most harnesses use an O-ring, so check that the dildo has a flared base wide enough to stay put.

Harnessed or strapless

A strapless strap on has a bulb that the wearer holds internally, with no straps at all. It gives the wearer direct sensation but takes some practice and pelvic muscle control. Harness styles feel more stable for beginners. Some strapless models add a vibrating motor in the bulb, which the wearer feels directly.

Size and material

  • Start smaller than you think. You can size up later.
  • Body-safe silicone is warm, firm, and easy to clean. Browse silicone dildos for compatible options.
  • A vibrating strap-on adds a bullet near the base for the wearer.
  • Use water-based lube with silicone.

Comfort for the wearer

Look for wide, padded straps and adjustable buckles. Brief and jock-style harnesses feel more like underwear, while classic two-strap designs give a firmer hold. Washable nylon and neoprene harnesses are easy to care for, while leather needs occasional conditioning. If anal play is part of the plan, a dedicated pegging kit pairs a smaller dildo with a comfortable harness.

Strap-Ons: common questions

How do you choose a strap-on size?
Pick a dildo a little smaller than you think you need, especially for anal use or a first try. Around 5 to 6 inches long and 1.25 to 1.5 inches wide suits most beginners. Measure toys you already enjoy and use those numbers as a guide.
What is a strapless strap-on?
A strapless strap-on is a bent, double-ended toy. The wearer holds the shorter bulb inside the vagina, and the longer shaft extends outward for a partner. There are no straps, so it relies on pelvic muscle control. Some models add vibration for the wearer.
Do strap-on harnesses fit all dildos?
Most harnesses fit any dildo with a flared base that is wider than the O-ring. Many come with several ring sizes so you can match the shaft. Dildos without a base will not stay in place, so check the product specs before buying.
Can men wear a strap-on?
Yes. Strap-ons are worn by people of all genders. Hollow strap-on designs exist for people who want to wear a toy over the penis, and many harnesses adjust to fit any body. Choose adjustable straps and a size that feels comfortable for both partners.
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